The phase shift

Phase Shift

One of the many issues that affect any relationship between two or more human beings is the phase shift. It may lead to undesired results without being conscious about the main cause. The phase shift is a problem that cannot be easily recognized, it may not be recognized even if it exists for long period of time.

Normally, the phase shift decreases in any relationship by time, or by actions to be accurate, then these actions require time. But sometimes it increases by time, sometimes it empoison the relationship and turn friends into enemies.

Why did I call it the phase shift?

The phase shift is the state of difference in angle between two waves. It can also be the state of difference in moods between two human beings or more. Everyone has his/her own ups and downs.

You can’t expect that the Green line meets the Red line when the Green is in its ups and the red is in its downs, given that they move with the same frequency of events. You can’t expect them to be fully understanding and synchronizing because they’re not.

What can a phase shift do?

Sadly, everything that the phase shift can do is disguised in any other cause. If you’re leading a team or in a relationship, you’ll need to take a deep look in the others moods and phases. It will be a relief to successfully identify the root cause of a certain kind of response in your team or in your relationship.

A good leader is the person who feels fully responsible to “orient” the team that he/she is about to lead before starting to lead them to a certain destination. Orienting their efforts, moods, ups and downs. Maybe just clarify them to the rest of the team so they can deal with each other with respect to their phases and don’t expect some ups from someone who is down at that moment. Similarly, a good partner is the person who can precisely identify the phase of his/her other partner.

This kind of identification can’t be recognized by good brains, it can only be recognized by good hearts. Here it’s not about knowing, it’s about feeling.

It’s about feeling someone’s phase and feeling his/her state of mood. If it’s up or down, if he/she require help from others or can do it by their own selves.

It’s complicated when it gets to feelings, because there is no evidence. Disturbance doesn’t show up that easy. It requires great hearts to feel others current mood, and it requires great sacrifice to deal with them according to their phases not yours.