Why strong independent women turn men OFF?

Why strong independent women turn men OFF?

Okay ladies and gentlemen, let’s settle this once and for all. The trending debate about strong independent women needs to come to an end. Girls need to know more about men, how they think, and what do they need. Also, men need to know how to deal with this idea seriously and express their true thoughts without any sarcasm.

Some ideas are like a ticking bomb, they won’t explode now so you may not need to deal with it RIGHT NOW! But when the time it right, the bomb will explode, and it won’t leave anything behind. Only then, you’ll regret every single moment passed without dealing with problem when it was possible.

NOTE: This article is mainly about how men think? What they need? Also, I may have exaggerated in choosing some photos, but they look awesome, don't they?

Naturally, males seek dominance, it’s in their veins, and they were born with it. I’m not only talking about human beings, even animals have their males fight each other in order to choose the alpha male for the group. If you’re a man, you can relate to this point if you remember the school fights back when you were a teenager. Boys used to fight nearly everyday. We used to claim that it was about girls, but it was not. It was mainly tool for seeking more dominance. Who’s the strongest? Who is respected by others? Etc. etc. At that time, I can remember teenage girls competing to know who’s the most beautiful girl? Who’s grabbing more attention? Who has the most crushes in the group? Relax, we were all teenagers.

So, from my personal point of view, we can divide dominance which is the major need into three minor needs. These minor needs most men naturally crave for even if they didn’t ask for verbally. These needs can also be the reasons behind why men hate strong independent women;

1. Men need to feel needed:

Although Anne was a girl, but she could describe how it exactly feels for a man when he meets a strong independent woman.

“Men don’t like strong, independent women because their roles won’t come to life if there’s no princess to be saved.” Anne Deborah Austria in Why Men Don’t Like Strong, Independent Women

If you’re a man, you may feel like a superhero for just opening that rigid jar of jam. Even if you can lift heavier weights in the gym. The thrill isn’t just the same.

A man called Cliff Young once did a small-scale research about why men reject strong independent women. And posted the results in his article “What Men Really Think About Successful, Independent Women” guess what he found?!

“Many guys have told me how they were very interested in a girl, but she kept on emphasizing her independence and all that she was able to accomplish.  They were left thinking, “Where would I fit in?”

Guys want to be (or at least feel) needed. Cliff Young

A man can’t feel secure if he’s the only one needing in the relationship. He may even stop demanding anything just because he have nothing to offer in return. He’d rather end this relation than suppress his masculinity. It is OVER!

In an article mentioning why it’s harder for strong independent women to find love called 10 Reasons Why It’s Harder For Strong Women To Find Love, Rania Naim reflected the need to feel needed on love and affection, she said the following:

They don’t ‘need’ a man. They crave love and affection but they will never need a man to complete them. Love will always be a choice to them; not something they’re looking for out of fear of being alone or getting old. They’re content with their own lives and love is a sweet addition not a necessity. Rania Naim

2. Men need to feel respected:

Kimberly Wagner and her husband who experienced many years in a miserable state posted an article about the things that most husbands don’t like, 10 Things Your Husband Really Doesn't Like. The first reason she mentioned was about respect:

“He hates when you throw him under the bus in public.”

When you point out his faults, criticize or correct him, you make him feel like an idiot in front of others—and that’s demeaning. Don’t embarrass him in any way (especially in front of your children). [Kimberly Wagner]

That’s how we men feel. It’s about appreciation. It’s not just about saying the right thing, but also saying it in the right way. Being humiliated is harmful for both men and women, but it may also break him and turn him totally off.

When Cliff asked some women why they were still single, the most common reply was “Men are intimidated” by them.

“Many men can be intimidated by a woman who is capable of doing everything for herself.  Being with an independent woman can expose weaknesses or challenge a man’s abilities in the skills that she knows, thus injuring his ego.  They may look at women like this as threatening to their manhood and cause them to run.” [Cliff Young]

Injuring a man’s ego may lead to one of the two dead ends. He may either react vigorously humiliating his partner just to defend his injured ego, or retreat from such a relationship ignoring his partner to prevent any further injury.

“And remember, respect is everything” GTA2

3. Men need to be in control:

There’s a common Egyptian proverb that says:

"المركب اللي لها ريسين تغرق"

Which can be translated to:

“The boat that has two captains sink.”

There has to be someone holding the driving wheel, there has to be only one driving the wheel. And from the dominance point of view, it has to be the male. If the male isn’t the one holding the driving wheel, then there is no male on that ship.

Cliff described it in his simple way when he said:

“Guys want to be the “man” in the relationship.” [Cliff Young]

Although it’s too obvious to mention it, being the man in the relationship is the guy’s job not the girl.

Women who think with the strong independent mentality, are not likely to accept to be controlled by anyone. They see boundaries as barriers from freedom even if boundaries present the major difference between freedom and bohemia.

Summing Up...

What I’m saying here is:

• A relationship is about two partners depending on each other, they feel stronger by the presence of each other.
• Trying to satisfy your own needs completely by yourself hurts the people around you because they don’t feel needed. Besides, it’s nearly impossible to completely satisfy yourself by yourself.
• A man is not turned off from the STRONG woman, because he needs a strong woman beside him to motivate him, to survive with him, and to raise strong children. But  he is turned off from the INDEPENDENT woman.
• Dominance is the key need for men; which can be broken down to being needed, respected, and in control.
• Most importantly!! Not all men are turned off from strong independent women, only the men who refuse to act vigorously and humiliate their partners are turned off.

Shall we dance?

"Marriage is like dancing; not only each of you needs to be a good dancer, but also you need to dance well together."

Everyone has his/her own image for marriage, some of them sees it crystal clear, for others it's a little bit hazy. Yet, at least, everyone has his/her own theme for that image. You may not have the courage to speak it out, but you know it's there. All you've to do is to nurture it consistently and once you speak it out... Voila! You've got yourself an interesting image.

I've always wanted to share my image about many things in my life including marriage. Of course, I feel good about just sharing it, but I also feel great when someone says,, Hey!! I do have a close image to yours. Because that's the best part of being weird, when you know that you're not the only weird living in this world.

For me, I'm confident enough to know that my image is not that awesome, maybe compared to other images it may looks weird and different. But you know what? I like weird, and I like being different. Not that kind of different when you're always challenging the current regardless the direction. But until you start to believe in your image in life, you'll never be different, you'll always be safe from defying the current because you don't have anything to stand for.

Marriage is pretty much like dancing; not only each of you needs to be a good dancer, but also you need to dance well together. You need to synchronize your movements together for a lovely dance. Interestingly, there are some important factors to consider while choosing your life partner which are pretty much similar to choosing whom you're going to have your dance with. Let's list them together.

1. You don't need a Tango dancer if you're a big fan of Capoeira..

We all know that Tango is awesome, inspiring and energetic. But you both need to be either two Tango dancers or two Capoeira dancers if you want to enjoy your Dance. You and your partner need to be dancing with the same style. I'm not saying dance like you, or move like your, or think like you.

Both of you need to have that common abstract vision of living so that you can play along together creating a life full of taste, odor and feelings avoiding any out of tune events. Both of you need to be compatible with each other, to do so, you need to agree on some major concepts like religious orientations, beliefs about existing on Earth, and values related to ethics.

2. Synchronize Your Dance..

If you want to enjoy the Dance, you'll need to dance with your partner with the same pace, neither faster nor slower. Of course, both of you will start your dance making mistakes, you may even hurt each other with your moves, but along the way your legs will get used to the moves.

That's exactly the same when you both live together, you need to develop together with the same pace, you need to motivate each other and push each other when someone is having problems with movements or maybe getting a little bit confused. Don't you give up on your partner, don't say that he is too careless, or she will never get me. Grab her along with you. Motivate him so he can care more.

3. Never Stop Dancing..

Your dance will face many mistakes, some from you, others from your partner but most probably you'll face a lot of problems together from the outside environment because now you're dancing outdoors. The ground is not so flat, the wind is not always calm, the weather is not always on demand. The most important thing is to keep dancing, keep moving forward, keep bonding to each other. Your dancing itself heals your injuries and increases your inertia to breakthrough any wall.

Life is tough! That's a given.. Problems with various colors will come to visit you but you can't shut the door. Because the same door that is opened for problems is also opened for life opportunities. In order to pass safely through the Ups & Downs you've got to keep moving forward.. you've got to stick together to protect and strengthen each other. Rocky Balboa said it clear: 

It's not about how hard you hit, it's about how hard you get hit and keep moving, how much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done!

4. Skilled Dancers stay together..

You must choose your dancing partner, but you can't just choose the best in the class when you've just attended your first class. You need to be a good potential for him/her, you need to earn it, and of course you need to keep trying to earn it through your life, or else, just pick up someone on your own size.

If you asked about their partner, most of boys/girls would prefer the passionate visionary partner who always has dreams up to the sky. That's okay, Great Choice btw! but who are you to earn something like that? Just make sure that you're not on the contrary. Just make sure you can be on the same page, or at least have the potential to do so.

5. Stay Humble..
You're the best in the class, you've the most flexible moves, you can dance confidently without hurting your partner or making any mistakes. The Good news is that you've earned it, you can choose the best in the class or you can choose anyone in the class. Congratulations!! But the Bad news is that no one wants to partner with you, not because you're not good enough, Absolutely NO! But because your rude way beating everyone in the class. You just can't tolerate their mistakes anymore!! You're too good to dance with a faulty partner.. guess what? You may end up being with no partner, because all dancers are faulty!

It's a killer!! To be the best in the class, you're expecting respect and love from everyone. But they end up just fearing you, avoiding you. You need to remember that everyone makes mistakes, even you! They know that too! They know that you make mistakes, and they watch you do them repeatedly, they even watch you denying being faulty!

So let's dance..

Know your style..
Synchronize your dance..
Keep dancing..
And keep it simple ;)

تأثير السن

كلما الواحد بيكبر كلما خبرته في الحوار بتزيد؛ بيقدر يستقبل المعلومة بطريقة احسن, و بيقدر يحلل المواقف أسرع و بكفاءة أعلى, و بيقدر يعبر عن افكاره بشكل افضل. بس ده مش معناه انك ماتلاقيش اتنين من كبار السن بيتخانقوا على اصغر الأسباب, لأنه مع العمر, برغم زيادة الخبرة في الحوار برضه طاقة الواحد في الإستيعاب و التحمل بتقل, أو بمعنى أصح خُلقه بيضيق أكتر من الأول, و قلبه بيزداد قسوة, و ثقته في العالم بتقل لحدما تتقلب للعكس, يعني مش بس هو لا يثق في اللي حوليه و انهم عاوزين يساعدوه ده ممكن كمان يثق تمام الثقة انهم عاوزين يضروه حتى لو الناس اللي حوليه ماتغيروش..

الزمن مش بيغير حد, يمكن التجارب اللي بتحصل مع مرور الزمن هي اللي بتغير. زي الصخر لو سيبتها 10سنين حتفضل زي ما هي, لكن لو نزلت عليها قطرات المياة ولو لربع المدة حتتقسم نصين. إنكارك لتأثير التجارب السلبي عليك بيساعد في تهالك روحك و فطرتك, و إعترافك بهذا التأثير بداية العلاج و ليس كل العلاج, لسه قصاد الواحد عمر يفضل يعالج فطرته و يغذّي روحه زي ما بيغذي جسده..

14 Lessons from Naruto that may change your life

1-             Never leave your comrades behind.

Through your life, you’ll meet a lot of challenges and you’ll be required to take serious decisions. It’s very important that you put your comrades into your calculations because at the end of the road they are the only people who are going to take care of you. Comrades in life are your colleagues, your family and your friends.

2-             Those that break the rules are deemed as trash but those that would disregard their comrades so easily are even worse than trash.

This quote was once said by Uchiha Obito and memorized by Hatake Kakashi who was once Naruto’s sensei. It’s very important to play the game while respecting the rules of the game. Then let it one rule above all the rules, don’t disregard your comrades just for the sake of the rules.

3-             Everybody can change.

It’s not as simple as it’s written. Yes, of course, it needs incredible effort yet it’s not impossible. So don’t lose hope on people, don’t lose hope on evil because maybe one day they’ll be changed by you.

4-             Enrich your life with challenges.

A great quote was said in general “A Smooth Sea Never Made a Skillful Sailor” so your skills won’t be enriched except through tough experiences. That’s the way to get tougher, faster, sharper and wiser.

5-             Respect your promises and don't let your words down.

Great men value their words and make them as precise as possible. You can work on just binding yourself with promises that you can keep, but you also need to challenge yourself even in your promises to increase the range of promises that you can keep.

6-             Hatred may be a source of strength, but not as love.

People can be driven by one of those two drivers; hatred, or love. Both are drivers, both can make you achieve to a certain limit. But only one of them will eat you up and day by day will control your thoughts, personality, decisions, actions and all your life.

7-             If your power will hurt yourself or your comrades then it’s forbidden.

Uncontrolled strength is called weakness because firstly it will hurt the ones you care about.

8-             Always have a sensei.

Self-study is just one of many tools used by your teacher. In order to learn something in the most accurate way, as fast as possible and with the least effort you need to get it from someone who has both knowledge and experience that can help you become better.

9-             Always have subordinates.

This is the way to payback what you learnt from your sensei. One day, you’ll become experienced and skilled that you will be a sensei to others. Without subordinates, your dreams, values, knowledge and skills will just die with you and become history.

10-      Intelligence overcomes strength.

Don’t be fooled if your strength was in your muscles only because it’s weak in front of intelligence.

11-      Everyone has a different style of strength.

Even strength itself is colorful that anybody has his/her own strength that can be used to compete between others. Not because you’re not good at math that means you’re a failure, it only means that you’re good at something else and you’ll need to search for it.

12-      A subordinate should one day surpass his sensei.

This was one of Nagato’s puppets that Naruto killed in one punch. Naruto destroyed all Nagato’s puppets which were the same puppets that killed Jiraiya his sensei. If the sensei and the student are working hard enough to enrich the teaching process, then this relationship will end one day by the student surpassing his sensei. And it’s not something the sensei should be ashamed of, but in contrary it’s a source of pride that you succeeded in teaching and raising a new successful leader with your life experience in his mind.

13-      No human is pure of flaws.

Even the sensei himself has his own weaknesses. It was deliberately shown every time that most of the sensei’s were having some sort of weakness, it was variating from Tsunaude’s gambling to Jiraya’s perverseness to Kakashi’s being late. So not because you’ve bad habits that means you can’t be something good. It’s just a part of your nature as a human being.

14-      Memorize your dream.

Memorize your dream; say it out loud every time you feel that life is preventing you from achieving your dream. People are going to watch you achieve it.

The phase shift

Phase Shift

One of the many issues that affect any relationship between two or more human beings is the phase shift. It may lead to undesired results without being conscious about the main cause. The phase shift is a problem that cannot be easily recognized, it may not be recognized even if it exists for long period of time.

Normally, the phase shift decreases in any relationship by time, or by actions to be accurate, then these actions require time. But sometimes it increases by time, sometimes it empoison the relationship and turn friends into enemies.

Why did I call it the phase shift?

The phase shift is the state of difference in angle between two waves. It can also be the state of difference in moods between two human beings or more. Everyone has his/her own ups and downs.

You can’t expect that the Green line meets the Red line when the Green is in its ups and the red is in its downs, given that they move with the same frequency of events. You can’t expect them to be fully understanding and synchronizing because they’re not.

What can a phase shift do?

Sadly, everything that the phase shift can do is disguised in any other cause. If you’re leading a team or in a relationship, you’ll need to take a deep look in the others moods and phases. It will be a relief to successfully identify the root cause of a certain kind of response in your team or in your relationship.

A good leader is the person who feels fully responsible to “orient” the team that he/she is about to lead before starting to lead them to a certain destination. Orienting their efforts, moods, ups and downs. Maybe just clarify them to the rest of the team so they can deal with each other with respect to their phases and don’t expect some ups from someone who is down at that moment. Similarly, a good partner is the person who can precisely identify the phase of his/her other partner.

This kind of identification can’t be recognized by good brains, it can only be recognized by good hearts. Here it’s not about knowing, it’s about feeling.

It’s about feeling someone’s phase and feeling his/her state of mood. If it’s up or down, if he/she require help from others or can do it by their own selves.

It’s complicated when it gets to feelings, because there is no evidence. Disturbance doesn’t show up that easy. It requires great hearts to feel others current mood, and it requires great sacrifice to deal with them according to their phases not yours.

Bad luck Brian wants to have a job

Sends his cv to all companies, no reply.

Sends his cv to all companies, the only reply was:
"Delivery to the following recipient failed permanently"

Sends his cv to all companies, all of them reply and agree, يتاخد في الجيش :#


A company calls for interview, يطلعوا فلول و يرفضوه 

A company calls for interview, يطلعوا اخوان و يرفضوه

A company calls for interview, calls 3am

A company calls for interview, wrong number

A company calls for interview, 3 missed calls

A company calls for interview, got the call.. battery low !!

Goes the interview... 5 minutes late, and rejected.

Goes the interview on time.. الأمن مايدخلوش عشان إلا لما يخلص دور السودوكو

Goes the interview on time, النور يقطع

Accepted in a companyفي آخر بلاد العالم

Accepted in a company, الشركة تفلس.

#Egypt
#badluckbrian

عضة نملة

افتكر كل مرة نملة تقرصك فيها, كنت بتعمل فيلم ازاي, و رغم انها صغيرة لكن عضتها مؤلمة و تقدر تكدرك اليوم كله.

السؤال الأول..
تعرف عدد النمل في العالم كله كام؟
مليون؟ 20 مليون؟ مليار؟؟

هو للأسف الرقم كبير لدرجة اني ماعرفش المثيل له بالعربي  حقولك تريشيليون و بتاع بس شوف الحقيقة العلمية ده

"Scientists estimate that there are one quadrillion which is (1,000,000,000,000,000) ants living on the earth at any given time."

Embery, Joan with Ed Lucaire. Collection of Amazing Animal Facts. 1983.

يعني 10 اس 15 !!!

طب السؤال التاني..

هل النمل منظم؟

الصورة تعبر عن اكتر من كده 

اول سؤال جالي بعد السؤالين دول:

طب بما ان النمل كتير و منظم ليه مأكلناش من زمان؟

ليه مافيش افلام رعب ان النمل بياكل الناس, ده لو مليون نملة اتجمعوا على واحد و كل نملة أخدت قطمة حتخلصه..

هل ربنا خلقهم لحكمة غير الحكمة الدنيوي اللي شوفتها؟

هل ربنا خلقهم اصلاً عشان يخدمونا, فإزاي ياكلونا في يوم من الأيام؟

هل أنا اللي فكرت في الموضوع بطريقة عكسية, يعني لو ماكانش الإنسان بطبيعته مدمر للبيئة اللي حوليه مكانش حيتوقع العداء من كل الكائنات اللي حوليه؟

كلمة سمعتها قبل كده: أي عدوان من أي حيوان ما هو إلا عدوان منك أنت شخصياً و بينعكس على الحيوان و بيحسسه بخوف منك فيضطر يهجم و يدافع عن نفسه.

ساعتها بس عرفت اني لو محتاج ءأمن من عدوان غيري محتاج أنا نفسي ابطل عدوان..

و لو محتاج اسلم على اللي قصادي لازم ارمي السكينة قبلما اقرب منه..