Shall we dance?

"Marriage is like dancing; not only each of you needs to be a good dancer, but also you need to dance well together."

Everyone has his/her own image for marriage, some of them sees it crystal clear, for others it's a little bit hazy. Yet, at least, everyone has his/her own theme for that image. You may not have the courage to speak it out, but you know it's there. All you've to do is to nurture it consistently and once you speak it out... Voila! You've got yourself an interesting image.

I've always wanted to share my image about many things in my life including marriage. Of course, I feel good about just sharing it, but I also feel great when someone says,, Hey!! I do have a close image to yours. Because that's the best part of being weird, when you know that you're not the only weird living in this world.

For me, I'm confident enough to know that my image is not that awesome, maybe compared to other images it may looks weird and different. But you know what? I like weird, and I like being different. Not that kind of different when you're always challenging the current regardless the direction. But until you start to believe in your image in life, you'll never be different, you'll always be safe from defying the current because you don't have anything to stand for.

Marriage is pretty much like dancing; not only each of you needs to be a good dancer, but also you need to dance well together. You need to synchronize your movements together for a lovely dance. Interestingly, there are some important factors to consider while choosing your life partner which are pretty much similar to choosing whom you're going to have your dance with. Let's list them together.

1. You don't need a Tango dancer if you're a big fan of Capoeira..

We all know that Tango is awesome, inspiring and energetic. But you both need to be either two Tango dancers or two Capoeira dancers if you want to enjoy your Dance. You and your partner need to be dancing with the same style. I'm not saying dance like you, or move like your, or think like you.

Both of you need to have that common abstract vision of living so that you can play along together creating a life full of taste, odor and feelings avoiding any out of tune events. Both of you need to be compatible with each other, to do so, you need to agree on some major concepts like religious orientations, beliefs about existing on Earth, and values related to ethics.

2. Synchronize Your Dance..

If you want to enjoy the Dance, you'll need to dance with your partner with the same pace, neither faster nor slower. Of course, both of you will start your dance making mistakes, you may even hurt each other with your moves, but along the way your legs will get used to the moves.

That's exactly the same when you both live together, you need to develop together with the same pace, you need to motivate each other and push each other when someone is having problems with movements or maybe getting a little bit confused. Don't you give up on your partner, don't say that he is too careless, or she will never get me. Grab her along with you. Motivate him so he can care more.

3. Never Stop Dancing..

Your dance will face many mistakes, some from you, others from your partner but most probably you'll face a lot of problems together from the outside environment because now you're dancing outdoors. The ground is not so flat, the wind is not always calm, the weather is not always on demand. The most important thing is to keep dancing, keep moving forward, keep bonding to each other. Your dancing itself heals your injuries and increases your inertia to breakthrough any wall.

Life is tough! That's a given.. Problems with various colors will come to visit you but you can't shut the door. Because the same door that is opened for problems is also opened for life opportunities. In order to pass safely through the Ups & Downs you've got to keep moving forward.. you've got to stick together to protect and strengthen each other. Rocky Balboa said it clear: 

It's not about how hard you hit, it's about how hard you get hit and keep moving, how much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done!

4. Skilled Dancers stay together..

You must choose your dancing partner, but you can't just choose the best in the class when you've just attended your first class. You need to be a good potential for him/her, you need to earn it, and of course you need to keep trying to earn it through your life, or else, just pick up someone on your own size.

If you asked about their partner, most of boys/girls would prefer the passionate visionary partner who always has dreams up to the sky. That's okay, Great Choice btw! but who are you to earn something like that? Just make sure that you're not on the contrary. Just make sure you can be on the same page, or at least have the potential to do so.

5. Stay Humble..
You're the best in the class, you've the most flexible moves, you can dance confidently without hurting your partner or making any mistakes. The Good news is that you've earned it, you can choose the best in the class or you can choose anyone in the class. Congratulations!! But the Bad news is that no one wants to partner with you, not because you're not good enough, Absolutely NO! But because your rude way beating everyone in the class. You just can't tolerate their mistakes anymore!! You're too good to dance with a faulty partner.. guess what? You may end up being with no partner, because all dancers are faulty!

It's a killer!! To be the best in the class, you're expecting respect and love from everyone. But they end up just fearing you, avoiding you. You need to remember that everyone makes mistakes, even you! They know that too! They know that you make mistakes, and they watch you do them repeatedly, they even watch you denying being faulty!

So let's dance..

Know your style..
Synchronize your dance..
Keep dancing..
And keep it simple ;)